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Everyone suffers from bouts of “blah”- A funk. A general lack of enthusiasm or a plague of being utterly uninspired is not uncommon, especially for sewers. For some people a funk is no big deal. They come and go and you have little trouble snapping out of it. Maybe you don’t need to take funks very seriously. But if you’re like me, a sensitive type who struggled with depression for most of your young adult life, you know a funk is a dangerous state to be in. Once you start to feel a little sad or a little “blah” about one thing, it’s really easy to just keep feeling that way about everything. The best thing to do is identify the funk early on and snap out of it. Of course, you probably know that it’s easier said than done, but coming back from a funk starts with identifying the reason (whatever it may be) and making a change.

Step One is to be blunt with yourself and identify the problem.

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The problem is: I’m sad. If you’ve been keeping up with my online presence (or lack there of lately) you know my oldest cat just passed away on Valentine’s Day. She had been with me for 19 years and she was my oldest friend. My animals are my life and any fellow animal lover out there will know how I feel right now. I knew she was dying, so for the last two weeks of her life I pretty much stopped taking care of myself in order to be with her for every second of the rest of her days. I gave up everything else I loved because I loved her so much. I stopped sewing, I stopped going bowling, I even stopped sleeping in my room so I could sleep on the couch with her instead. Now that she’s gone (that was the hardest Vet appointment of my life) I’m struggling to get myself back to normal again. It’s not that I won’t allow myself to grieve, I have every right to be sad, I just know I can’t stay in this state any longer.

The problem is when I’m feeling down about one thing, I start to feel down about everything. Even with things that I normally go to in order to feel happy. This is the hardest thing to cope with, hence the funk.

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I was feeling completely uninspired to sew or blog or read or knit or be active. When you no longer enjoy your favorite things how do you come back from that? Well most people will tell you that you can just ride out the funk and ride out the blah and soon you’ll be back to enjoying things again. They’ll tell you not to force it. This does not work for me. So if you’re like me, you need to force your own comeback and only you can be the one to do it.

You have to stand in your sewing space and stare at the wall for an hour and say I’m not leaving here until I sew something. You don’t have to sew something large or complicated, in fact you should probably avoid those things at first. You’ll tell yourself “I have nothing to sew”, “I don’t have any fabric I like”, “Why would I sew something for no reason?”. Tell your Naysayer Self to “shut the front door!” and turn on your sewing machine. Pick up a square of fabric and just start putting stitches in it. Force that first step.

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Another part of my problem is I don’t have a favorite “go-to” pattern that I can just pick up and make without any adjustments or tracing or alterations. I don’t have a “happy pattern” yet. The point of my Twelve Pattern Challenge is to have that by next year, but I only have the one skirt finished so far and I don’t want to sew it again right now. This was just making it easier for me to be in a sewing funk. Originally my Twelve Pattern Challenge was created as a driving force and a motivation to do better. But lately it’s a looming limitation and detrimental to my comeback. Why? Because I kept telling myself “No you can’t sew that, it’s not 1940s”, and “No you can’t sew that it’s not one of your twelve patterns”.

“No you can’t” is not a phrase to bring you out of a funk. I had mentioned in my challenge that if it ever felt like a struggle, or if it wasn’t fun, that I would allow myself to bend the rules and make a change. So I am, just until I’m back on track. It’s okay to do that.

I wanted to sew something that I love with minimal effort to make it. But that wasn’t going to happen. So I turned on my sewing machine and just started sewing random scraps together. I made nothing, but making something was not the goal. The goal was to start sewing again so that’s exactly what I did in the most direct sense of the word. I just sewed a bunch of nothing but I was still sewing.

After that I started feeling a little better so I started prepping to actually sew something besides scraps. I cleaned my sewing room, I cleaned my sewing machine, and I set up my brand new serger that had been sitting in a box for two weeks. Then I started searching for inspiration.

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Seeking inspiration when you’re depressed, or in a funk, can be difficult. It’s easy to see something your peers are doing and compare yourself to it in a way that makes you feel more down. When I’m in a funk I usually stop reading other sewing blogs for a while and seek inspiration that’s totally unrelated to sewing. I’ll look through vintage catalogs, watch a favorite movie, or listen to a favorite song. Inspiration can come from anywhere and everywhere. All you need is one color, or a print, or a feeling and then it hits you! You want to create a thing based off that thing because you love it! I found my inspiration in giant pants (haha! No but I’m serious.) and I’ll blog more about that later. But the point is, just start putting stitches into fabric again first. The inspiration to make something will find you.

So stop blaming it on the weather. Tell yourself the truth. Identify why you’re in a funk. Then slap some makeup on your face (or change your hair color if need be), put on your happy song (even if it’s really bad) and just start sewing scraps together. Just. Start. Doing it. You’ll feel better, I promise.

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If this all sounds outrageously corny and you’re rolling your eyes, then whatever, this post is not for you. But I need this and I know there are other people out there that need it too. This “funk” problem is so much bigger than sewing, but that doesn’t mean sewing can’t be a solution.

Sewing is my happy place and I’m making a comeback. I’m ending this sewing/general funk because I love myself, and I deserve to have love for myself and everything I do. I will start this journey today. Better yet, I am starting it right now.

Repeat that after me.

xo
Rochelle

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  • Alice

    Hey Rochelle! I totally understand you! You know when i started reading this blog post i was like “ho i had no idea she could have struggle with depression!” and it made me reminding at the end of the reading, sometimes when i feel so low i look what other do and i’m like “ho they are so much better than me” stuff but i just don’t know, maybe they battle with depression or anxiety or whatever illness but i can’t know it, their blog is about their “happy place”, they share what makes them feel good and what they make with passion. So we may all struggle with funk in a way or another, nobody is perfect and you are worth it and you are doing good making it step by step to be happy and sewing again! I send you all my happy thoughts and encouraging words to help you feeling better! Your mantra is a great find! Thanks! (I should apply it too!)

  • Lauriana

    Of course, I recognize the funk and the struggle to snap out of it. And it happens, even without a good reason like the death of a dear old pet.
    When I get in such a state, I start being afraid I won’t want get back to sewing (my work, which is often a cause of it, is sewing related so that danger is real).

    I think you are taking the all the right steps.
    Usually, I will also clean up the sewing room, make something simple just because it’s nice (and if fit is often an issue when sewing clothes, turning to accessories is a great idea) and then, on the first wave of returning sewing mojo, I’ll try to make something mildly fabulous (whether it meets a wardrobe need or not).

    Best of luck!

  • Emily

    Dear Rochelle,
    I’m so sorry about your cat. I can’t imagine what it must be like to lose so dear a pet.
    I just wanted to say, I know exactly what you mean by a “funk.” I will get into one and it will impact every single part of my life… So I appreciate your wise advice. Thank you.
    On a side note, it’s kind of nice to know that I’m not the only one who has this “issue.” Thank you for being so open and willing to share the “not so nice” as well as the “nice”. I really appreciate it!
    Thank you!

  • symondezyn

    I really love your candid approach to this kind of problem. I’ll admit, I’ve been the friend telling another friend to just ‘ride it out’ and it will pass. Yes, sometimes that’s true, but you’re right – some situations DO call for forcing out the funk.

    One of them being exactly the situation you described. I remember going through EXACTLY the same thing when my fuzzy soul mate died. He was sick for a week prior to his passing; we were in and out of vets for checkups and xrays to determine what was wrong with him and discovered he had a heart disease. Not knowing whether he’d get through it, but knowing it was not likely, my whole life became all about keeping close to him, making sure he was getting fluids and comfortable, and spending every last second with him that I could. I didn’t do anything with myself except look after him – i didn’t even sleep. After it was all over (and yes it is the WORST vet appointment ever), I struggled to find any reason to do the things I loved. I finally finished a dress I had started – only by dedicating it to him, in his memory. And now I’m crying LOL.

    Sorry for the long comment – i just wanted to thank you for your thoughtful post and let you know you’re not alone :)

  • Kate

    I know exactly were your coming from, and I’m sure lots of others do too, to lose a pet is like losing one of your family, I know that too, it is heartbreaking, thank you for writing this, just the push I need xx

  • Donna Keating

    My heart goes out to you. I understand how you feel from personal experience. Sewing is a fantastic mood lifter (I’m a quilter). Good luck in your quest.

  • Trina

    I have found that sewing doll clothes for a child I love or for an under privileged child can help me out of a sewing funk. There are many patterns for the most common size doll (18 inches) ranging from very easy to more difficult on line for free so there isn’t even a need to leave home. I just picture the little girl’s face when receiving my handmade outfit and that gets me sewing. It helps me anyway.

  • Emma Smith

    Sorry for the loss of your cat, I’ve been there too, so can sympathize completely. It’s a tough time for you. X
    As far as a sewing funk is concerned mine lasted 10 years!
    I worked in the industry after my fashion degree and the low pay meant making new clothes essential (and easy as I had access to industrial machines and lots of fabrics!), as I left the industry and changed career my disposable income increased and that need to sew decreased. I’d also met and moved in with my husband – so had different demands on my time and attention. I did use my creativity by going to weekly watercolour and acrylic painting classes, and then finally last year when the Great British Sewing Bee was on I rediscovered my sewing mojo. Now I’m having a ball and don’t have enough time to keep up with everything I want to make.

  • SharonT

    I am: 1. A fellow animal lover and terribly sorry for your loss. 2. Very much in a funk due to a chronic illness that makes me constantly fatigued. 3. Very happy to have come across your post because I thought it was just me. 4. Hoping to finally get enough umph to get to a store and pick up a pattern or two (I want to make myself a couple of pairs of comfortable pants because I’m at a point where I cannot stand to wear jeans anymore due to a little weight gain).

    I really enjoyed this, and I like your ‘pull yourself up by your bootstraps’ attitude! Bravo!

  • val

    This made me cry. This is exactly how I feel. Thank you for putting it out there. I will definitely be starting with scraps. Thank you!!!

  • Chantel

    I am so sorry about your wee cat. Hug Lucille — it might help. Thank you for this post — what a glow of encouragement! You are treasure to us and you spread happiness across the web. Thank you — Please hang in there and know you are dear to us out here in the interwebs!!! :-)

  • elle

    I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, but your spirit is admirable and inspiring. Thank you for this post.

  • tworandomwords

    “It’s easy to see something your peers are doing and compare yourself to it in a way that makes you feel more down.”

    This is me right now – I’m definitely in a sewing funk, but it’s more because I’m not liking most of the clothes I’ve been making recently. They’re too slap dash because I just wanted to finish SOMETHING, and so they don’t fit well, and I’m not happy with the execution. I’m not even 100% sure how to get out of this one, but I do know that it’s hard reading sewing blogs at the moment thinking “look at all the amazing things people are making! I’m so terrible”

    • Rochelle

      Your sentiments are EXACTLY how I felt at the beginning of the year! I wrote a blog post about that too because I was so unhappy with my sewing in 2013: http://luckylucille.com/2013/12/this-is-the-anti-roundup-roundup/

      My Twelve Pattern Challenge was created to try and force myself to make just 12 things this year that I’m truly proud of.

      Taking a break from sewing blogs can really help, but don’t give up. You’re not terrible! You can make a change and make things you’re proud of :)

  • Virginia

    I needed to read that. :-)

  • Lisa Robinson

    It always helps to know you’re not the only one feeling this way. Sewing and knitting is the only things that have kept me from the brink … it quiets the monkeys in my mind and lets me switch off from the world for a while. Thanks for sharing Rochelle, I love your blog and people like you who share themselves makes me feel more connected with the world and myself!

  • Tanith

    I connect here with so much that you have said. Those vet visits are the worst things in life, even when you are 100% sure they are the right thing to do. It does feel weird to say this, given that I don’t really know you, and have only been reading your blog a few months, but my heart goes out to you so much, and I’m so sorry you have to have that sadness in your life.

    As for sewing funks, your advice is excellent. Although I have sometimes ridden them out, for the most part you just need to get back into it. Often I give myself a sewing funk by giving myself too many projects to do (and I know you are familiar with this – and I love the way you are choosing to tackle that issue), and doing something unrelated and new and just getting on with anything is quite a cure. Great advice.

  • Julie-Ann

    Thanks for your post. I know what it’s like to lose a much beloved pet. I have always relied on myself to pull myself out of my funks but most of the time I don’t know when I’m in one until I get snappy or weepy and/or someone tells me I’m not acting like myself. This post helped me to realise that I’m in one right now not because of anything sad but because I’m in a state of extreme boredom (the bane of my existence – it’s the cause of 70% of my depression bouts) because I’m at a point in my project where I can’t do anymore because my machine is missing a foot (my zipper foot – argh!) and I’ve been too busy to get to the only store in my neighbourhood that sells the darn things.

    Again thanks for your post. I hope you feel better soon.

  • Anna Christina

    You probably will never know how nice it is for some of us to read this post. I have been going through a funk for several years. It lasted so long, I didn’t realize that I was still in it until I came out of it. Now that I have been out of it for a year, I am really starting to get motivated. Your advice about just making yourself do something is priceless, and I also have to sometimes stop looking at blogs to look for inspiration. It is difficult not to compare yourself to others.

  • Martha Bilski

    Wise words. So sorry about your friend.

  • Jessica Cangiano

    Oops, I hit enter by mistake before I was finished writing. I’m truly, from the bottom of my heart, sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you to no end, honey (and I’m always here if you need someone to talk to about anything). I’ve lost some pets before, including my childhood dogs, and know how incredibly painful the experience can be.

    ♥ Jessica

  • Jessica Cangiano

    Fantastic advice! I think a great deal of this could easy translate into helping one out of a crafting (or even blogging) funk of just about any kind, not only a sewing one. Thank you for sharing your wonderful wisdom with us, dear gal!

    ♥ Jessica

  • rosiewednesday

    So sorry to hear about your kitty, but I’m so glad you’ve pulled yourself out of the funk! Onward and upward! This is corny, too, but one of my favorite sayings is “inch by inch, everything is a cinch.” It’s something I chant to myself when I get in those moments of feeling overwhelmed or like I just can’t get going.

  • ksgentry

    Let me start off by saying how sorry I am about your kitty. It is so hard to lose a great friend and confidant. My cats are truly my best friends and it is so hard when you have to let them do. I hope that peace and solace helps you as you travel the journey.

    I have been struggling with my ‘creative’ side for several months now. I have given up on my blog, reading others blogs, my sewing machine lays idle, my threads are collecting dust.. I wish I could identify what causes it, I find myself disinterested in life itself, it shows up unexpected and can hang on for weeks or months.

    But after reading your post it has given me the renewal that I need, if you can do it after such a great loss then I should ‘put my big girl panties on’ and do the same. So much time has been wasted, so many things could have been done. But I vow that this weekend will be my turning point. I will get in there and reorganize my area, prepare to complete something.

    I can not thank you enough for your words,

    • Rochelle New

      Thank you for your kind words and support. I’m happy to have given you renewal and I hope you find yourself happy in your sewing room this weekend. It’s easy to dwell on the “time wasted” and the “could have, would have, should have” bits of what we missed out on yesterday. But that doesn’t matter today. The only thing that matters today is the fact that you recognized the need for a change in what you do tomorrow. Now get in there and get sewing. You can do it :)

      xo

  • Ellen

    Rochelle, life has many moments that lead to depression. As one who has dealt with it for over 30 years, I admire your attitude. Often we must get on with it, and it is those things we enjoy that help lift the fog, even if we don’t feel like doing anything. The memories of the life and good times with a beloved pet will always be there to provide comfort. Good thoughts being sent your way as I sit with my “old” kitty Carmen, enjoying her companionship and love.

  • Lauren

    Thank you so very much. That post was like having someone turn on the lights for you, when you hadn’t even noticed it was getting dark out. Perfectly timed and perfectly voiced. Thank you.

    • Rochelle New

      Words can’t express how much I feel lifted knowing I was able to shine a little light for you. With all this support I’m starting to feel complete again <3

  • sallie

    Thank you Rochelle! What a great post. Let me just start off first by saying again that I’m so sorry about your kitty. I’ve been known to fall into a well of depression/self-doubt/general-life-funk-itude over something much more menial and trivial than losing a dear old friend. And, you know, you gotta ‘feel your feelings’ and all that jargon – but I also know that feeling of ‘enough’. Your advice for getting yourself out of your funk reminds me of my tactic when I was a practicing artist. I felt like creative doldrums and ‘just not feeling like it’ moments happened every other week! And the only thing I could do to keep going would be to first, clean my studio (which was always a pig sty!) and second, make something. ANYTHING. Even better if it wasn’t at all related to the body of work I was working on at the time. And sure enough, that one stupid thing that I made always felt like I uncorked something. Even if what I uncorked was molasses and it moved REALLY slow, it was still moving (weird metaphor!) Actually that’s how I started sewing – a reminder that no matter how insane or ‘but that’s not what I’m supposed to do’ your idea is, just do it anyway. It may lead you someplace you never thought you’d be!
    Take care of yourself, lady! We’re all rooting for you!

    • Rochelle New

      Molasses that moves slowly is still a movement forward and that’s no feat to be overlooked ;)
      You’re right, making ANYTHING is really the best way to get it going again, no matter what your practicing art is. I’m happy to have cheerleaders like you on my side. Thanks, Girl :)
      xo

  • clsoetcasefiles

    Oh sweetheart, so sorry to hear about your kitty and the attendant blues. Losing pets is just SO HARD. I think its totally appropriate to wallow for as long as you want, but I like the way you pulled yourself out of it. I get Seasonal Affective Disorder and its always the worst at the start of the season for some reason. I have a solid month a year I can’t bear to make ANYTHING and generally the only way to get through it is to do exactly what you’re doing. Also, the new blog design looks great!

  • Sarah

    Sorry to hear about your cat, they become such a part of your family that it’s an awful feeling when they pass! When my dog died last summer I felt that a piece of me had been ripped out.

    This post is really motivational (thank you for sharing) and as I’m someone who often gets in to a ‘slump’ I’m now feeling inspired and I’m off to do some sewing :)

  • Jenny Johansson

    I’m sorry to hear about your cat, I can totally relate to your sadness, since our family dog passed away recently.
    However, I have a suggestion about the funk regarding your pattern limitation. If I understand correctly, the limitation is only for clothes patterns, and that should leave an opening for non clothes-related sewing! How about sewing a tote bag, a handbag, a back pack, new curtains, a fancy pillow or something else? I find myself, that these kinds of projects are easier for me to pick up and to finish, and ideal for scraps of fav fabrics from the past.

  • J.

    This is a wonderful post! I’m glad you’re starting to feel better, even this soon after the loss of a pet (which must have been heartbreaking – I have two cats and love them so much!). It’s really comforting to read about how you’re working to come back from that, and I’m sure whatever you sew next will be fabulous.

    (Is your hair going to be that excellent raspberry dye shade I spy, too? I love that colour.)

    • Rochelle New

      I have four kitties (and my Lucille) still in the house who are certainly making it easier for me to keep it together. I don’t know what I would do with myself if I didn’t have them! And yes, I’m hoping to have beautiful bright raspberry hair soon ;) I adding as much brightness to my life as I can!

  • Donna

    You’re amazing – thanks for this post :)

  • Laura

    I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. I know how tough it is to lose a pet.

  • agirlinwinter

    I’m so sorry about your cat. Losing a beloved pet/friend is heartbreaking. I have times when I don’t want to sew because I feel too “blah” and I have to force myself because sewing is the thing I do to make myself feel happy! BTW I have the same serger as you. It’s awesome! :-)

  • Rachael

    Thanks for a lovely and timely post, I’ve just found out that I don’t have much longer with my 18 yr old furry guy. You have helped to remind me to enjoy the time we have left. Part of cheering myself up and trying to focus on being normal will be to crack on with a new sewing project x Best Wishes to all your family, furry and otherwise.

  • Elena Knits

    I’m glad that your funk is coming to an end. I am very sorry for your loss and I know how you feel. You have to go on with your life, even if it hurts. It’s the only way.

  • ltinuviel

    Thank you for this post!

  • Natalie Webb

    This is just what i needed ^-^, i was feeling really sorry for my self but i dont want to spiral, its just boring and horrible, we just have to push ourselves sometimes to move forward, because even if our brain chemicals are predisposed to ‘blues’ i want to look at things with a positive clear mind and yes i will get back in the sewing room

  • fionaparker17

    This is such an amazing post Rochelle. It’s really hard to address things like this and put it into words and you’ve done a wonderful job. So glad to hear you’re beginning to feel better

  • Handmade Jane

    This is a wonderful post Rochelle, even though you’re sad right now, the underlying message is so positive which speaks volumes. I’m so sorry to hear about your beloved cat, but thank you for being so optimistic amidst your grief, I’m sure this will really help a lot of people. x

  • Claire (iwanttobeaturtle)

    Rochelle, thanks so much for posting this. Like many others who have commented, I can completely relate. When you’re not feeling on form, it is so easy to get caught up in a spiral and I’m really pleased to hear that you have found a way to deal with this. I’m going to try just sewing scraps the next time I’m stuck. I’m sorry to hear about your cat – it sounds like she had a great life. I still miss my cat who left us a few years ago – visiting my mum’s just isn’t the same.

  • sewtigersew

    This is a marvelous post for several reasons. One, it’s just so touching and connecty when we share of our real lives–all the things that surround our sewing, inform it, affect it, and so often go unshared. Two, you’ve put together something that’s really very spot-on, from my experience of depression. One just has to start–walk around the block, go grocery shopping for healthy food, dress up nicely, or sew scraps together. I’ve been there and I think you’re so right. And three, I imagine the writing was helpful to you, and I imagine the comments and communication around it are too. I’m so glad you’re taking such good care of yourself! Thanks.

  • Perlchen Noir

    What a great post. Thank you so much.

    xoxo Perlchen Noir

    http://perlchennoir.blogspot.de/

  • rachel

    Wow, it looks like the funk is following quite a few of us around at the moment. I’m really sorry to read about your kitty but thank you so much for sharing. I really needed this post today. It’s about bedtime here at the moment but I think I’m going to read this again when I wake up, and maybe I can start to pull myself out of the quagmire. At the very least, I could put the sewing machine back on the table…

  • Roni

    I understand how you feel. My dog died 3 years ago and I’m in tears every time I think about her. I remember the days after she died I just set in my bed, waiting for “something” to happen. My happy place is looking through the microscope and I remember I could look through the lances but couldn’t SEE anything. The purple and pink hues of histological preparations where a total mess and made no sense.

    Three years later, I still have my happy places. Sewing has become another happy thing, since by DOING something it allows me to just BE.

    But regardless the arsenal of happy things and places, some days, when I’m sad for whatever reason, a Funk is exactly where I need to be.

  • EmSewCrazy

    Thank you for sharing.

  • Michelle

    Sorry to hear about your fur babies. I am in a funk right now too. My source is stress which takes many forms – I called it blurred thinking. It’s hard! Thanks for your thoughtful post and good luck weekend sewlution. I truly believe creativity helps.

  • Stacey

    oh my goodness… I just discovered your blog, and I am so happy I found it on this day. I know the funk. And I hope you find your way out. Many of us will find inspiration in you. Sounds like you have a plan… repeat it again… and good luck!

  • Melissa

    This is a wonderful post! Thank you for posting it! Getting out of a funk seems impossible sometimes but it truly is the combination of forcing yourself to get into a better mindset and unplugging (no blogs, no social media, no comparisons!) and just getting back to the things you enjoy, like music, movies, etc.

    PS – I LOVE giant pants! And that picture you linked is killer good. I can easily see how you found that photo to be inspirational and I’m very much looking forward to seeing where you take it :)

  • senjiva

    I am so sorry that you have had to say goodbye to your darling cat. She couldn’t have had a better life with anyone but you. You exude true compassion. I hope things get better for you.

  • Hannah

    Hi Rochelle, this is such a great post. We all get those times when we don’t feel positive about things and sometimes knowing that you can change the way you feel is very empowering. You are such a wonderful sewist, and I really admire your work!!! I’ve found that comparing myself to other people is one of the worst habits I can get into, and really try to avoid it. Unless you see it in a positive way it’s not at all productive!! But you seem to be going the right way to pull yourself back onto your feet :)

    I’m so sorry to hear about your kitty :( I’m still sad about losing my lovely cat, who lost an argument with a car in August. We just have to cherish the happy memories of them that we have and hope that we gave them the best life that they could have had. They become such a big part of our lives!

    I hope you feel better soon!

  • Jo

    Oh this is such an amazing post. Thanks for putting yourself out there, it’s inspiring to me. I also get in many funks. It all stems from not feeling good enough, but it’s basically my goal to stop it this year! I think I need to just write out a list of reasons to be happy and be nice to myself and read it whenever I need to. Sorry to hear about your grief. You will get through it, well obviously you will-you’ve written a great post and have some great tools. Thanks.

  • Pat

    What a timely/great post. I make pot holders when I need to get out of my funk. About a year ago I had to stop reading all sewing blogs for a month and shut down my sewing machine as well. I have a spinal chord injury and I was getting so fed up with how long it takes me to cut something and sew it while the rest of the sewing blogging world was churning out an outfit or two a week. I got things back in perspective again, and now I sew at my own pace without getting extremely upset that I can’t sew as fast as other bloggers. The fact that I can even sew a garment is a major miracle.

  • Béa

    Thank you so much for this post! I’m definitely going to drag myself out of my sewing doldrums this weekend, by sewing something, anything, following your example.

  • Grace

    Such a perfect description of how it feels when you slip into those down days, it’s like you’re in my head. Thank you so much for writing this post, it’s comforting to know other people feel like this too. I’ve bookmarked it for the next time I’m in a slump so your words can give me a gentle kick up the bumb!

  • Sunni

    I definitely needed this today. Actually, I’ve needed this for a few weeks. I’ve been feeling down and out about things and really, giving myself a really hard time. It’s hard not to take everything as a sign that you, in general, just suck all around. And I know that sounds really bad, but gosh, its so true – well at least for me. You’ve said the exact things that I’ve needed to say to myself. Get up, put on some make-up and get doing!

    I am sorry about your cat. All my best for you!

    • Rochelle New

      Oh god Sunni I know exactly what you mean. I’m plagued by that often. It’s just “easiest” for me to be sad about my kitty right now, but it’s always something. I make a conscious effort everyday to take charge of my own happiness and just get going. I think you’re incredible and you’ve been always a huge inspiration of mine. No matter how much you feel sucky right now, just know there’s a small army of us out there who know you’re not <3.
      Xo

  • mandymarie20

    I have to back Abigail up, being in similar circumstances. I’ve been in a funk myself for a month or so. It’s so difficult to find motivation to create when you can barely get out of bed.

  • Philippa

    I am so in support of everything you have written here. Grief really can seep across everything and sap you of all energy and enthusiasm. In many ways that’s understandable and I know from experience it will soften over time. So giving yourself time to feel everything you need to is one aspect. But doing nothing but grieve can be exhausting. Sometimes our brains need a bit of a rest . Just doing something like tidying your sewing room can give a lovely sense of achievement. It doesn’t really matter if it seems like a small thing to anyone else – if you find it satisfying that’s what counts. I’ve lost count of the number of times I have ‘given myself a talking to’ and got on with some mundane task when I’ve been feeling low and just completing something has lifted my spirits. Good luck with continued recovery!

  • auntsr9

    Rochelle, I am so sorry to hear about your beloved cat. No words can express how the loss hurts. But why do we have to have so much in common? I love to sew and I love the 40s and I had to put my beloved, Belle to sleep on February 13th. She was 14 years old and was my late husband’s dog. Losing her was like losing him all over, every night I pray that she is back in his arms. Thank you for the funk blog, it really has helped me. So I will blot my tears, and take the hippie flower print material off my jeans that I sewed on them for my hippie dippie party with my La-La friends. I am so blessed to have friends. Love and kisses to you and all your readers, Shari

  • SeamstressErin

    So sorry you’re struggling right now. Like many, I can relate, having faced the loss of a beloved furry family member and having struggled with depression in the past. The fact that you are able to write this post means you know that it will get better, as it always eventually does, but it is so easy to lose sight of that at the low point in the funk. Sending you love and hugs and wishes for happiness and creativity. This too shall pass. <3

    • Rochelle New

      Thanks, Erin. The light at the end of the tunnel is always there, it just seems a little farther away lately lol. It’s getting brighter though :)

  • lisa g

    i think a lot of people can relate to this for one reason or another, so thanks for putting yourself out there. so sorry to hear about your cat! it’s good that you are confronting your feelings. it’s too easy to push them away and end up doing more harm. i think it’s a great idea to just start sewing, even if there’s no plan or project. i’m sure in time you’ll get your inspiration back.

  • Karen Combs

    I completely understand- facing the same thing with my beloved dog. So sad but this weekend I did exactly what you are doing and ended up with my small quilt top pieced– I could deal with straight lines and not worrying about fit and it really helped. Sometimes simply hanging out in my sewing room helps but it can mock me too!

    Glad you made baby steps!

    • Rochelle New

      I’m so sorry to hear about your puppy dog, Karen. I wish we weren’t coping with that kind of loss, but unfortunately we are. It puts a smile on my face to hear that sewing also gives your comfort and makes you happy :)

      Chin up.
      Here’s to baby steps and straight lines!

  • Nickydelys

    Hello. You know what? I actually needed this post a lot. I have been feeling exactly the same for the past few weeks. Admittedly nothing terrible like my cat passing away happened but I know how you feel.
    I love to hear about the way you have made yourself make the step to get out I it. I have never really identified that I might need a way of combatting the depressed feeling that I get.
    Thankyou very much for this. I am so sorry about your cat.
    Hoping you feel better about it all spoon. :)

    • Rochelle New

      There is no right or wrong reason to be in a funk. I’ve been more sad in my life for lesser reasons. No matter what your reasons are, it’s okay. But it’s not okay to keep feeling sad when there are things out there that can make you happy. Just go out and find that thing and enjoy the journey while finding it :)

      xo

  • Sally {thequirkypeach}

    This is a GREAT post! You are definitely speaking my language here :)

  • Sarah

    I’m so sorry about your cat. I had a sweet old dog pass away while I was at college and although I am not really an animal person, I loved that dog. I hope you can feel better and at peace. Hang in there!

  • Abigail

    ha ha. thats me. sensetive and struggling with mild depression for some of my life.
    I’ll tell you this though, thank you SO, SO MUCH for writing this. I really needed this today!
    Bless you, dear gal :)

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